08 March, 2015

Faith, Failure, and Lifting Others

I was pretty timid as a young medical student doing a six-week obstetrics clerkship. In order to get opportunities to deliver babies I had to compete with other students, interns and residents.  I was worried about doing things wrong – I was full of fear, which caused me to miss out on several opportunities to deliver babies. In short I wasn’t doing well and it showed. One of my professors, Dr. James Maciulla, sat down with me in private and we talked things over for a long time.  This little heart to heart altered my academic path and trajectory. Dr Maciulla taught me that we learn by doing, and that it’s ok to fail, that failure is part of the learning process. He promised me that if I would plow forward and try hard that my self-confidence would increase, and it did.

I learned a few things from this experience:

First:

Fear is paralyzing! Living a productive life requires that we ACT! We learn by doing! We must be doers not just dreamers. In a collection of poems Rabindranath Tagore exclaimed, “The song that I came to sing remains unsung to this day. I have spent my days in stringing and in unstringing my instrument.”  Many die with their proverbial music still in them because they were either too afraid to act or too lazy to try.  For me, I was watching valuable opportunities, (once in a lifetime opportunities as it turned out); pass me by because I was paralyzed by fear. I overcame this by forcing myself to act, as painful as it was. 

The antidote for fear is faith. Faith and fear cannot exist in the same person at the same time; one will cast out the other. In order for faith to have power in our lives we must have more than faith in ourselves, we must have faith in God.  Faith that He exists, faith that He loves us, faith that He has all power and that “he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.”  (Hebrews 11:6)  As we seek, we will surely find, then we will be able to exclaim as did the apostle Paul to the Philippians; “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.”  (Philippians 4:13)  Faith in God leads us to the well of self worth, self respect and self confidence.

Second:

Failure is part of learning. Success is not in never stumbling but in getting up every time you fall. I saw this acted out recently at my son’s high school track meet. The girls were running the hurdles. Long after the fastest runners crossed the finish line, our eyes were riveted on a young runner who tripped over every hurdle near the end of the course. Each time she fell it took longer for her to get up.  At one point her fall looked so painful that I wondered if she would get up and finish the race. To her credit she did. As she crossed the finish line the crowd applauded, to me she had won the race.

Kevin J Worthen, president of Brigham Young University taught, “We should not be so fearful of failing that we avoid trying new and hard things… how we respond when we fail will ultimately determine how well we will succeed… Finally, we can be assured that however we have failed, it can, from an eternal perspective, be changed…. Because of the Atonement, all failures are changeable and temporary, except the one that occurs when we give up. So whatever you do, don’t you dare give up.”

Third:

One person can make a difference. At that time in my life so many years ago, Dr. Maciulla made a lasting difference in my life. He took time out of his busy day to help me, and I have never been the same. We can make time in our lives to serve others.

One of my favorite stories in all sports occurred at Olympic Park, in Melbourne, Australia on March 11 1956, during the Australian mile championship. “While running the 1500 meters a runner named Ron Clarke crashed down after clipping another competitor’s heel, John Landy, who was very close behind, leaped desperately to clear his body. He didn’t quite manage that, his spikes landing on the inside of Clarke’s arm.  Landy pulled up, and with other runners streaming past him, took the time to trot back to Clarke – who was still on the ground – and check how badly hurt he was. And yes, he also apologized.
           
Assured that the injury wasn’t too serious, Landy looked up, then did something that astonished most of the 22,000 spectators. With Clarke on his feet now, and urging him on, he began to chase a field of runners that had gone a long way past him.

He had about a lap and a half to go. And amazingly, he won the race. His act of chivalry had cost him perhaps up to seven seconds, and there is no doubt he sacrificed the chance of a world record. John Landy did not just win a championship that day. He took a footrace into folklore.

His was a classic sporting gesture. It was a senseless piece of chivalry --- but it will be remembered as one of the finest actions in the history of sport. In a nutshell, he sacrificed his chance of a world record to go to the aid of a fallen rival. And in pulling up, trotting back to Ron Clarke, muttering ‘Sorry’ and deciding to chase the field, he achieved much more than any world record …”

A lot of people wondered why he pulled up. The truth is, of course, that he didn’t think about it. It was the instinctive action of a man whose mate is in trouble.”  As we run the race of life let us take time to lift others. We can all think back to a time when we have been lifted by the kindness of another. The injunction to each of us is “go and do thou likewise.”  (Luke 10:37)

As we go forward in faith, unafraid of failing, and looking for opportunities to lift others our lives will be blessed, we will be filled with peace, joy and HOPE and we will bring the same into the lives of others.


Till next time, keep your head up!

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